When there is a divorce there are then many challenges for the children. Kids often times feel like they need to take sides and choose between parents. This could even be because one parent is encouraging them to take sides. For girls, they are more likely to become promiscuous, and also more likely to get pregnant as a teenager. This is because she wants attention and to feel loved by boys, since she does not have a father that is always present in her life. Another challenge that happens is the Disneyland dad syndrome. I had never heard of it this way before, but it was very interesting. When parents get divorced, the average dad lives 400 miles away from their children, making it sort of a vacation when kids get to visit dad. In this case, dad's house is usually much easier than moms with very little responsibility. Such as, sleeping in all the time, no chores, and just having fun with no responsibility. Going to dad's is treated like a holiday and usually there are not many rules. Sometimes, the dad does this in hope that this children will like being at his house more than the mom's house. And this can create a lot of conflict. Remarriage can also be a big challenge. And the main reason for that is because rules drive behavior, and there are no set rules for step parents. When there is a step parent it creates confusion for all. With moms and dads, they both have defined roles and set rules, it is very clear as to what they should do and their roles in the home.
Divorce makes things more complicated usually. Unless there is abuse in the home, then divorce is not the right thing to do most of the time. Except in rare cases. People that want a divorce and do not get one, and are married 5 years later, are typically very satisfied and have a good marriage. And very glad that they stayed married. A lesson here I guess is to have good communication, don't be selfish in any way, and try to just work things out.
“Meanwhile, mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in a marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concerted effort, so harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed if each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness.” -Elder Russell M. Nelson
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